A brief guide to understanding “lower your gaze”.

400601_10151439490713737_1968418704_n1st picture. There are things which you cannot help seeing and things which you would never see if you avoided certain things.

“I asked Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) about the sudden glance (that is cast) on the face (of a non-Mahram). He commanded me that I should turn away my eyes.”

–[Sahih Muslim 5372, Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah]–

“The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: A man should not look at the private parts of another man, and a woman should not look at the private parts of another woman.”

–[Sunan of Abu Dawood, #4007, Narrated Abu Sa’id al-Khudri]–

2nd picture. There are CERTAIN things you look at briefly, and the first glance is forgiven you, as per the hadith:

The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu `alayhi wasallam) said: “O Ali, do not follow a glance with another, for you will be forgiven for the first, but not for the second.”

-[Reported by al-Tirmidhi]–

3rd picture. When you start watching non-mahrahms and searching for haraam things to gaze at, there is a problem, as per the ayah

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husband’s sons, their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam , or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful.”

—[Qur’an: Surah An Noor, ayah 30]—

The Oldest and The Only Religion

mqdefaultIslam is the religion of all Messengers, because it stands steadfast on the creed of monotheism, and the rejection of any partnership. Those Messengers preached Islam to their people at various epochs of human history. When lapses occurred, and apostasy reigned with the desertion of Faith, Allah the Almighty in His Merciful Grace sent another Messenger with the true religion to guide people once again to His providence and to purge their souls.

At the time of the revelation of the Faith unto Muhammad (sal), the service and adoration of God had sunk to an abyss of clamorous censure of the human mind and conscience. Religion had lost its fundamentals and its spirits. It was transmogrified into idolatry.

The testament of Abraham (pbuh) was lost. The original Revelation of Moses (pbuh) is now extinct, the present ‘Pentateuch’ is a surviving recession but completely deformed. The Scriptures of Moses (pbuh) and Jesus (pbuh) are still extant, though not in their pristine form . The Jews went after false Gods, and the Christians invented the Trinity or borrowed it from Paganism. The Traditions of the Prophets had been mutilated and distorted, and polytheism became the general creed of people, save those who were guided by The Graces of God to keep the Faith in The One True Deity.

And as the world’s moral standards deteriorated, and humanity was led astray through the vicissitudes of life, and no nation was spread the perversion which ensued when people continued to worship idols or believed in plurality of gods, The Divine Providence then ordained the revelation of a universal Message to mankind so as to salvage man from his calamitous fate.

Indeed, the religion in the sight of Allah is Islam. And those who were given the Scripture did not differ except after knowledge had come to them – out of jealous animosity between themselves. And whoever disbelieves in the verses of Allah , then indeed, Allah is swift in [taking] account.
(Qur’an 3:19)

It’s Not Just about Looks!

Most if not all the people that interacted with Prophet Yusuf (PBUH) were not just influenced by his good looks but his overall character. Even the woman, who seduced him, did not do so just because of the looks. It was in her house that Yusuf (PBUH) grew up, and she was therefore familiar with, if not used to his appearance. (She past the ‘shock phase’ that led the other women who saw him for the first time to “cut their hands” ! She was a mature married woman (not a teenage girl!) and knew better how to ‘judge’ a man.
Those who dealt with Yusuf (PBUH) in prison saw in him other than his looks: “we see you one of the Mushsineen (doers of good)”. When the king saw him he said: “you are with us in high rank and fully trusted” because now the king was aware of Yusuf’s (PBUH) abilities, not appearance.

Mature men as well see in women other than their looks. Khadija (Ra) was beautiful but certainly there were others. Yet Muhammad (PBUH) saw in Khadija (Ra) what the women saw in Yusuf (PBUH): genuine character: “she accepted me when people rejected me, she believed in me when people doubted me, she shared her wealth with me when people deprived me”.

Unfortunately, we live in a celebrity based culture that emphasizes looks, not personality. I am not saying that looks should not be taken into consideration (by the way, even if Hollywood aims to create beauty standards, beauty is relative and culturally defined) but that character must take precedence when making serious judgments and decisions, especially as serious as marriage!

Inner Peace

If we have peace inside ourselves, it will reflect on the outside.Inner Peace Whereas, if we don’t have peace inside us, no matter how perfect it is outside, we will still feel restless and irritated. Without peace of mind, life is just a shadow of its possibilities.

Therefore, we must learn to love ourselves, in order to love others.

So, how do we do that?
We do that by Loving Allah, and Trusting that Allah Loves us too.

And how do we feel Allah Loves us?
It is by Recognizing Allah’s favours on us and Appreciating them. And therefore, Praising and Obeying Him, The Most Kind and Wise.

In other words, the more we Believe in Allah, more we will feel His Love inside us; and the more we feel His Love inside of us, more we will Love His Creation.

Therefore, it is a process, which starts from Loving ourselves and then Extending that Love in Every Direction.

Everything is possible with Allah

       There are those who suffer at the hands of others and themselves, souls which have departed from their true worth. Souls lost in the world, they’ve embarked upon a sense of loneliness, whilst full of a sense of false comfort. These are the souls who have been deceived. Lied to by the very ones they claim they love. 

 
We are in a slumber, deep, involved, unable to let go. Then we taste hope, reality hits us painfully, with every tide our eyes open, causing us to fear what we have put forth. But we are stronger than what we fear. 

We are greater than everything we have put forth, we can be better, stronger, bolder, fearless. With Allah  on our side, the lost soul finds it’s way, because it *never* loses hope in the mercy of her Lord. Ever.

The Ideal Islamic Marriage

ideal-muslim-marriageIt is the unadulterated system of Allah that, whenever He prohibits a thing, He closes all the avenues that lead to it. The same holds true in all that He has allowed for us. He makes clear all the paths that make it easy.

Undoubtedly, man and woman were created by Allah to worship Him and in doing so, they need  fulfill His promise of making humans inheritors of the earth, generations after generations.

The process of procreation was legitimized for us by Allah through the institution of Nikah (marriage). Allah says: “Marry women of your choice, two or three, or four, but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then (marry) only one” Surah 4. An-Nisa’ verse 3.

I’m particularly concerned with the nature of how wedding ceremonies are being conducted today by the Muslims. I personally see this as the point of departure between those strangers  that strive to conduct themselves in accordance with the shariah during wedding periods desperate for Allah’s blessings, and those that are ignorantly living under the shackles of the destructive 21st century civilization desperate for social recognition at the detriment of Allah’s pleasure.

People rich in civilization as the Muslims shouldn’t be found wanting in ethics and morals. In recent years, Satan has beautified a repugnant act for Muslims who are on the verge of getting married or even the married ones in their wedding anniversaries. An exposure to the new satanic trend in the form of a series of pictures taken by the would-be partners in an un Islamic style will shift any man with a sane and balanced understanding from a comfort zone to that of a constant anticipation of Allah’s wrath.

Innocent people out of ‘marital euphoria’ would do anything just to please the society even if it means going against Allah’s orders.. A true Muslim goes to any length to protect the honor of his women folk but sadly today, we even derive pleasure in displaying our women for the world to admire. Subhanallah!

An authentic hadith on the strength of Ammar (RA) sends a shiver down my spine. The Prophet (p) said: “A dayyuth will NEVER enter paradise” (Muslim). this is a person who’s not jealous of his women folk. He opposes jealousy and displays his wife for every Tom! Dick and Harry to see and comment as if she’s a commodity. How can my wife’s picture be traveling round the world admired by the good, the bad and the ugly. Insanity I guess.

The competition of a real believer is in good ways not in disobedience. We are trying to outdo one another in sins. Wedding dinner, what’s supposed to be a decent feast and a get-together is now the backbone of everything opposing Allah’s orders as far as wedding ceremony is concerned. Women in tight outfits, exactly as the Prophet(saw) painted their image, mixing freely with strange men with an accompanied music playing at the background inviting the wrath of Allah and we have the guts to expect Allah’s blessings in our marriages. What a deliberate contradiction.

Can’t we have a decent marriage? Can’t we think of Allah’s wrath when planning our wedding events? Are we so blinded and desperate for a 24 hour recognition that we are willing to compromise on our eeman? Who blesses marriages? Is it not Allah? Or do the people we consider when we disobey Allah have the key to our marital bliss and righteous off-springs , Think and ponder, If the foundation of our wedding is built on Allah’s disobedience then don’t blame Allah or the society when our children become delinquents but rather we should blame ourselves for that wedding based on Allah’s disobedience.

Don’t we know that for every person that abuses his sight at a dinner function organized by us, is an equal share of sin allotted to us, wise up and use your intellect. Don’t ruin the life of your children yet un born. The people we threw up a lavish immoral dinner to impress will be the first to broadcast our marital problems when Allah removes blessings in our marriages. So decide who to please now.

There’s nothing wrong in men having their exclusive male event in accordance with the shariah (a wedding banquet known as walimah) nor is there anything wrong for women to have their own separate wedding banquet. Hence, we should go for that which pleases Allah and which guarantees eternal bliss and a happy home.

Until and unless we see marriage as an Ibadah, we will not get the gist. In a hadith the Prophet (p) said: “The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman.” Only a pious woman will discourage you from trying to indulge in a wedding ceremony that will invite Allah’s wrath, so go for her and not the so called 21st century slave who knows nothing beyond the material world, totally oblivious of her creator.

Sisters, go for men that will honor your modesty and integrity. You talk of women’s right, go for men that will never expose you to the wild provocation of the sick world. Our marriages are no novelty, wedding ceremonies come and go but the records of everything that ensued is kept with Allah either as a plus factor or a minus factor for us on the Day of Retribution.

May  Allah give us partners that will hold us and drag us with utmost care to Jannah, and not those that know nothing beyond the material world.

Civilization has killed our civilization.

 

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In the 1800’s, men and women didn’t have time to ponder the mystery of their existence. They had lifespans that rarely exceeded 50 years. They raised families that often had 5 or more children. Children learned what they could before they were old enough to work along side their parents. It took weeks to communicate with other towns and cities.

Communities had to be self sufficient, and to work together. Everyone knew everyone else. They managed to farm, build, work 14-16 hours a day, and still had time for church on Sunday. It was a less civilized time than today, but also a more civilized time. Everyone was much nicer to each other, talked to each other, helped each other.

And look what they did. They conquered and colonized a continent, then created the greatest free nation on Earth. They industrialized and lead the way in steam power and manufacturing, setting the stage for the nation to become the most powerful industrial, technological and economic force the planet has ever seen.

Today, people live into their 90’s and 100’s, yet never seem to have time for family or community. Children attend school for 12 or more years, yet seem to have less common sense than ever. People work at seemingly meaningless endeavors, while less that 1 percent of the population produces the food for the other 99.2 percent. People would rather text than talk, and they are so wrapped up in their own “search for personal meaning”, they have no clue how to interact with each other. There are more broken families than whole, and no one seems to have time to raise their own children, insisting that the schools/government do it instead. There is no sense of community, no cohesive whole, no national pride or ambition.

Islam places tremendous emphasis on the social aspects of life. Islamic practices are not only confined to the spiritual dimensions, but also to the social environment. For example, Islam encourages people to perform their daily prayers in congregation. Praying in congregation strengthens the ties between people by giving them the opportunity to interact with one another and discuss their issues in a religious compound.

Status of women in Islam.

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At the time of Babylonian Civilization, Greek Civilization, Roman Civilization, Egyptian Civilization, Pre-Islamic Arabia Women were kept as mere sex tools. They didn’t have any basic human rights.

Islam uplifted the status of women and granted them their just rights 1400 years ago in times of the “Days of Ignorance”. Islam expects women to maintain their status.

One of the objectives of Islam was and continues to be of modernizing the thinking, living, seeing, hearing and feelings of women and striving for women’s upliftment and emancipation in society.

But women in the 21st centuries taking them back to the age of pre Islamic era.
In the name of fashion, Art and culture the women follow the ideologies of corrupted minded men, and they’ve  forgotten the commandment of their Creator.

If they don’t want to obey their Creator they are bound be disgraced, dishonored  and belittled.
That’s what we can see in those so called ‘civilized’ Countries, The highest rates of Rape, Homicide, Child abuse, Female Molestation, Divorce, Domestic violence are found in USA, Mexico, Sweden, Italy, UK, France, Brazil and other so called civilized countries.

Some women may ask, ‘What’s wrong in our dresses, why should the men be bothered about it, why should the men chase after us?’

The Real gentlemen will lower their gaze, protect their women. But, unfortunately all men are not Real Gentlemen.

My dear sisters, do you want to please the world in this short life and enter in to Hell-fire forever? Or Obey the Creator in this life and enter in to Paradise for eternal pleasure?

Change always begins with you.

Change always begins with youTo make this world a happier place for you to live in , requires you to change yourself -your heart, your mindset and your attitude- Not the entire world. Change ALWAYS begins with you– not your spouse, your parent,  your in-laws, your neighbor or that someone giving you a hard time.

One must bear in mind that everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself. When we change ourselves first, we can change those near to us and expand further, Change will not come if we wait for some other person, or if we wait for some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek. Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.


“Truly, Allah does not change the condition of  the people until they change what is in themselves.” (Qura’n 13:11).

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A sister’s struggle…

 Woman at Supplication.   A sister wrote : Years back when I used to listen to music, there eventually came a time that I started to feel thoughts like this is Haraam and would feel guilty every time I blasted the tracks.

So I thought to myself, let me add Qur’an in my Mp3 player (and I didn’t eliminate the music).

But what happened was that as long as both the Qur’an and the music was there I would flip between the two.

So I said to myself: I have to remove music completely, because as long as I allow for the the impermissible thing to thrive, then I may succumb and listen. So I deleted all music and removed every CD of it that I had.

Then I repented to Allah I will never listen to music again, and prayed at Tahajjud regularly that O Allah only you can prevent me from sins, so save me from every minor and major sin.

This method I have applied to many other areas in my life that I feel weak in. I just make Du’aa’ to my Allah and then remove it completely, for as long as it remains, I remain vulnerable.

InshaaAllaah I hope that this benefits everyone else struggling with their own struggle.